Newsletter 11.18.16

Hi Lights,

girls-are-equal-to-boysKhloe is a 5-year-old kid that unintentionally likes to push peoples boundaries. She somehow manages to challenge people’s beliefs with unbelievable childlike kindness. The other day, Khloe found her beloved necktie that she wore years ago. She was so excited that she found it, and could not wait to wear it to school the next day. “Mom, I’m going to look handsome!” she exclaimed. “Of course you are, Khloe!” I responded. “You’re going to rock the necktie like a rock star!” So the next morning while she and her sister we’re getting ready to school, I peeked into their room to see if they’re getting ready. Summer is putting on the brightest pink and purple princess dress with neon yellow polka dotted tights. She is contemplating which necklaces and bracelets that would go with her fabulous outfit. And Khloe pulls a crisp white superhero tee shirt that says, “Becoming a Superhero”. She takes her small blue and white necktie and clips it onto her shirt with her favorite denim jeans. They both brush their hair until their knots disappears, leaving their hair glossy and soft. They’re both beaming with pride and asked me, “Mom, how do I look?” “You guys look so amazing!” I replied. They both giggled at each other and took off to show Sam their outfit.

When I picked up girls at school, I asked my routine questions, “Who was silly today? Did anyone make you laugh?” I then asked Khloe with enthusiasm, “Khloe, did anyone notice your tie?!” Her response almost broke me. In a casual tone, Khloe says, “mom, my friends say girls can’t wear ties”. I asked her, “Well what did you say!?” I feel my blood boiling inside. “Mom, I told them that some girls wear ties. They would repeat back that girls don’t’ wear ties, but I would say they do.” She said this multiple times to her friends. She then breaks into a giggle stating about how she was going to wear her time tomorrow, and for the rest of the week. She takes off and joins her two sisters playing with legos.

I, on the other hand, am a hot mess. I just wanted to cry. I wondered to myself, “Is this just the beginning of heartbreaks for being different?” So the whole day, I was moping. Sam came home, and I told him what happened. He said he overheard the kids talking to Khloe about the tie incident, but it was all in an innocent manner. I asked him if any of the parents chimed in? He said no. My heart dropped again.

As I tucked my kids into bed that night I see Khloe’s beloved tie sitting on top of her dresser. I say a blessing on it. This simple tie has served some type symbol of what’s happening in our world today of sharing different beliefs whether it’s religion, gender, race, or politics. I just witnessed Khloe and her classmates able to have a conversation about their opinions without using hateful words or tone. It stung my heart right there because I’ve been guilty many times using hurtful words and tone to Sam, my family, friends, and other people who don’t share the same beliefs as mine. It was at this moment that something stirred inside me to pray. I pray for Khloe and all the people who dare to be different, to have courage and to have a safe community to hear their voices. The next morning, I see Khloe carefully placing her outfit on the bed and places her tie next to it. She looks at me, “Mom, what do you think?” “Khloe, it looks amazing,” and give her a hug. I think I’m going to raid Sam’s closet and find a tie too.

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11:00am and service begins at 11:30am)

We are a still trying to find our footing since the election. We will spend this Sabbath doing what we always do, learning to love well. Come prepared for a time of mediation, loud singing, quiet reflection, and lively, compassionate discussion.

ANNOUNCEMENTS

Yoga with Peter Steen

We meet every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month at 10am. Next Yoga Practice is Nov. 19 RSVP to Peter Steen at petersamuelsteen@gmail.com. Suggested donation is $10. Please bring a mat and water bottle.

Citykids

Citykids Party meets every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School meets every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month at 12pm in room 3.

Donations:

PLEDGES
We are still collecting pledges. Every cent counts! Please email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: sabin25_99@yahoo.com. Thank you for investing your time, commitment and resources to our community.

Payments:
Mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)

Give the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit)

Online through Faith Street: http://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny. (You can download an app for your smart phone. There is a nominal transaction fee, which decreases the higher the amount.)

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Address:

15 Rutherford Place, New York, NY 10003. We’re located between 15th and 16th street and between 2nd and 3rd Ave. Rutherford Place runs parallel between 2nd and 3rd Ave.

Program:

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast and program begins at 11:30am.

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email .

This Upcoming Sabbath 11.12.16

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11:00am and service begins at 11:30am)

The results of Tuesday’s election have left many of us grieving, frightened, and angry. We are left with questions of how to pursue justice and bring about the commonwealth of God. This sabbath, we will gather to lament and look for ways to work for justice. James 4:9 says, “Grieve, mourn, and weep. Turn your laughter to mourning, and your joy to gloom.” Lament is not a way out of dealing with the situation, but rather a way in. We will lament through song, and then discuss ways to move forward with our guest speaker, Rev. Andrew Wilkes.

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Rev. Andrew Wilkes is the associate pastor of Social Justice and Young Adults at the Greater Allen AME Cathedral of New York. A 2016 FPWA Faith and Justice fellow, Wilkes teaches public policy at City College of New York and is passionate about doing justice, loving mercy, and walking humbly with God.

Stanford Social Innovation Review:

https://ssir.org/articles/entry/a_faithful_force_for_good

Huffington Post:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/author/andrew-wilkes

The Guardian:

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jan/18/black-messiah-black-lives-matter-pentecostal-piety-racialized-capitalism

Interview with Georgetown University’s Berkley Center:

https://berkleycenter.georgetown.edu/people/andrew-wilkes

ANNOUNCEMENTS 

Yoga with Peter Steen

We meet every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month at 9:30am.  Next Yoga Practice is Nov.19 . RSVP to Peter Steen at petersamuelsteen@gmail.com. Suggested donation is $10.  Please bring a mat and water bottle.

 

Citykids

Citykids Party is Nov.12!  Citykids Party meets every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School meets every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month at 12pm in room 3.  

Donations:

PLEDGES

We are still collecting pledges.  Every cent counts! Please email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: sabin25_99@yahoo.com. Thank you for investing your time, commitment and resources to our community.

Payments:

Mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)

Give the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit)

Online through Faith Street: http://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny.  (You can download an app for your smart phone.  There is a nominal transaction fee, which decreases the higher the amount.)

 

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Address:

15 Rutherford Place, New York, NY 10003. We’re located between 15th and 16th street and between 2nd and 3rd Ave.  Rutherford Place runs parallel between 2nd and 3rd Ave.

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast and program begins at 11:30am.

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email .

Now is the time to pledge!!

Dear Citylighters,

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We are still collecting pledges, and your pledges do matter.  Whether it is $5 dollars or $1 dollar, it still matters. It symbolizes that you are committed to our Citylights community, and a doer in learning to love well.  We are a small community with a big heart and soul.  This is why my family and I are excited to go to Citylights every Sabbath because we are surrounded with people who want to learn to love well and practice it.  In fact, my three young kids will throw a fit if we cannot go to Citylights.  They love to set up the chairs, place the song sheets on every other chair, and the best part is to help Uncle Vince setup the communion tray, breaking bread into tiny pieces and pouring grape juice into the tiny cups. They have a place here.  They have a voice here.  You do as well having a place and voice here at Cityilghts.

Our goal is to meet $5000 in monthly pledges. At this point we have about $4100.  So your pledges DO matter.  Help us reach our goal of $5000.00.  Our community cannot thrive and exist without your financial contribution.

So….if you haven’t gotten around to it yet….

Please prayerfully consider what you can pledge to support Citylights on a monthly basis.

___ $25 ___ $50  ___$200  ___$500   Other: ______

Either:

  •  Email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: sabin25_99@yahoo.com or mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)
  • Complete the Pledge Cards that will be passed out/collected at Citylights
  • Honor your pledge, by giving the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit)
  • Give online through Faith Street for a nominal fee: http://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny.

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

Newsletter 11.4.16

Hi Lights,

I have to say, staying married to my husband is not exactly the hardest thing for me to do. Actively being in love with him, however, is sort of crazy.  Ok, I lied. It is definitely crazy.  I look back and remember how Sam proposed to me.  I laugh and cry all at the same time because we really had no clue about marriage, unconditional love, and compromise. I, myself, have changed since he met about 17 years ago, and so has he. Early on in our marriage we made a commitment to pray together as a couple every night because we heard somewhere that a couple that prays together stays together.  Now fast-forward 11 years later, and we are praying that we don’t kill each other.  At least that is some type of prayer right? I have lost touch with myself over the past 5 years, and he has thrown himself into work.  My responsibilities at home have grown tremendously since we have been caring for three little human beings over the past 5 years, while Sam’s workload at the hospital has also increased.

Somehow we’re supposed to still look at each other in the eyes and still feel butterflies? Well, I don’t know about you, but I sometimes feel road rage.  After cleaning the house spotless one night, and after putting the kids to bed, I go into the kitchen to quench my thirst with some water and steal a Snickers bar (We just had Halloween).  Then I see it.  I kid you not, I see trails of empty wrappers on the floor and damn crumbs scattered on the floor that I had just swept.  And this man, that I have vowed to love him for better or worse 11 years ago, has crashed on the floor and is snoring.  I am somewhat baffled.  How in the world is he able to do this much damage in less than a minute? I am ready to do give him some hurt, but instead I pray, “Oh God, help me breath.” I miracously pull a blanket over him and kiss him good night, and of course pick up the trash.  I could of have pointed fingers, made nasty remarks, but I didn’t this time.

I realized this is part of love.  Love is uncensored, ugly, raw, and chaotic.  In the midst of this, we continue to fight for us because staying married can be daunting. Many times, I have to look at our love notes from 15 ago and remember where it all began.  We had no clue what we were doing when we said our vows 11 years ago; and guess what, we still don’t know what we’re doing.  I realize that loving each other is still an unknown adventure for us and perhaps this is why people stay committed because the adventure never ends.

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

This upcoming Sabbath service begins at 11:30am. No breakfast this week!

14889899_904142746386423_5672402211475793487_oThis week we welcome Rev.  Jes Kast. Jes is the Associate Minister at West End Collegiate Church in Manhattan. She leads a weekly Soup Kitchen Church which is a place of dignity and belonging for the most vulnerable in New York. She is passionate about the intersection of gender & sexuality justice, interfaith peacemaking, and the grace of Jesus. Follow her online @JesKast.

She will be leading a discussion on the subject, “Teaching Our Daughters to Yell.”

ANNOUNCEMENTS 

YOGA Practice led by Peter Steen

This upcoming Sabbath, Nov. 5, come at 10:00am in the Quaker’s Room 1 located at 15 Rutherfords’s Place, New York, 10003 (Rutherford Place runs between 15th and 16th Street and 2nd and 3rd Ave).  Bring your tired soul, mat and water bottle. Suggested donation is $10 bucks. 
RSVP to Peter Steen at petersamuelsteen@gmail.com.

 

Citykids

Citykids Party is Nov.12!  Citykids Party meets every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School meets every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month at 12pm in room 3.  

Donations:

PLEDGES

We are still collecting pledges.  Every cent counts! Please email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: sabin25_99@yahoo.com. Thank you for investing your time, commitment and resources to our community.

Payments:

Mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)

Give the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit)

Online through Faith Street: http://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny.  (You can download an app for your smart phone.  There is a nominal transaction fee, which decreases the higher the amount.)

 

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Address:

15 Rutherford Place, New York, NY 10003. We’re located between 15th and 16th street and between 2nd and 3rd Ave.  Rutherford Place runs parallel between 2nd and 3rd Ave.

Program:

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email .

Newsletter 10/28/2016

Hi Lights,

violetSpirituality, God, and Jesus: topics of which can be a hot mess in our household. A couple of months ago, Khloe claimed that she was not a fan of Jesus.  If you ask her why, she would explain that it was because he left his family and friends behind when he went to heaven by himself after he rose from the dead.  She was like, “that was awful!”  Summer, who is 4 years old, thinks God is like a prince with magical powers who wears a fairy crown, pink necklaces, and fancy outfit.  Well, at least she thinks he’s fabulous.  So it appears I have two girls with different takes on Jesus.  Fortunately, I think Khloe is starting to warm up with this “Jesus thing”.

A month ago, I was awoken by my 5-year-old daughter, Khloe, around 3 o’clock in the morning.  “Mommy, I need to tell you my dream!” she explained.  I asked her to tell me later, but she insisted she had to tell me now or else she wouldn’t be able to remember her dream.  “Mommy, it’s about Jesus! I met him, Mommy!” I immediately sat up because lately Jesus has not been Khloe’s favorite person.  She tells me that she dreamed that her little 2-year-old sister, Hunter, was choking on a bunch of coins. bb7ac8535797cb5969556f0b17fcf754 “Mommy, I was panicking because Hunter couldn’t breath! Then I saw Jesus! Jesus, please help me! But Jesus said he forgot his instructional manual in heaven so he had to go home and get it.  He said he’ll be right back.”

At that moment, I was cringing at Khloe’s dream thinking Jesus was going to be her #1 enemy now.  She continued.  “So mom, Jesus had to go back to heaven and I was with Hunter. Somehow, I was able to go inside her throat and get all the coins out! I was so happy mommy! Hunter was ok! I got it out all by myself! I DID IT!”  I looked at Khloe and I was speechless. So Khloe continues with her story. “Oh, and Jesus comes back with the instructions and I told him, “I did it, I did it Jesus!” All the coins are out of Hunter’s throat!” She was full of smiles and relief. She didn’t mention one negative thing about Jesus leaving her hanging in this crisis.  Not one anxious or angry thought towards him for not using his “super powers”.  It was this moment that something shifted about her outlook towards Jesus.  Perhaps she actually saw him as human, not a super-God or hero.  Ever since then she wanted to hear more stories about Jesus and what he did and who he hung out with and what his family is like.  She wasn’t interested in his super powers, but more of his personal life.

manualAs I look back, I remember being so hurt, disappointed, and angry at God for not hearing me.  Perhaps that anger is a bit misplaced.  Maybe I should try dropping the super-Jesus status, and see him as a human being.  Jesus is a human being that loves people, and also happens to forget his instructional manual in heaven once in a while.

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11:00am and service begins at 11:30am)

b6d1761892f5b9bfd066b19a5c21bc1dThis Sabbath we continue our tradition of observing All Saint’s Day. All Saint’s Day is a festival celebrated by Christians worldwide. It is a day in which we remember and honor those that have passed on. For this Sabbath, we will gather, sing songs and tell stories of people that we love that have left this realm. This can be friends and loved ones, or people that you might now personally, but have inspired you in some way. WE ASK THAT YOU BRING YOUR STORIES, ARTIFACTS AND PHOTOS OF THE ONES PASSED. We will build a small altar to place these items. Also, please bring Marigolds other flowers to place on the altar.

 

 

ANNOUNCEMENTS 

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Yoga with Peter Steen

We meet every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month at 9:30am.  Next Yoga Practice is Oct.29. RSVP to Peter Steen at petersamuelsteen@gmail.com. Suggested donation is $10.  Please bring a mat and water bottle.

 

12573227_1728199874066678_3314763636782396496_nCitykids

Citykids Party is Nov.12!  Citykids Party meets every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School meets every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month at 12pm in room 3.  

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Donations:

PLEDGES

We are still collecting pledges.  Every cent counts! Please email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: sabin25_99@yahoo.com. Thank you for investing your time, commitment and resources to our community.

Payments:

Mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)

Give the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit)

Online through Faith Street: http://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny.  (You can download an app for your smart phone.  There is a nominal transaction fee, which decreases the higher the amount.)

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INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast!

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email .

Time to make a pledge to support the Citylights community!

Dear Citylighters!

A couple weeks ago, we sent out a Pledge Letter via email asking for your help in the form of a monthly pledge to help out community.  Our thanks to those who have already responded!  We’ve made good progress; however, we need to hear from as many of you as possible in order to make decisions about our 2017 budget.

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So….if you haven’t gotten around to it yet….

Please prayerfully consider what you can pledge to support Citylights on a monthly basis.

___ $25 ___ $50  ___$200  ___$500   Other: ______

Either:

  • Email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: sabin25_99@yahoo.comor mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)

Or

  • Complete the Pledge Cards that will be passed out/collected at Citylights

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 Honor your pledge, by giving the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit) OR giving online through Faith Street for a nominal fee: http://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny.

Thank you and blessings from your Board of Directors–

Russell Chin, President

Sabin Popescu, Treasurer

Newsletter 10.21.16

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11:00am and service begins at 11:30am)

017rublev-troitsaThe Holy Trinity is one of the church’s great mysteries. I remember as a young Sunday school student, ever the curious one, I would ask my teacher about the Trinity. (it was the name of the church I grew up in after all). I would ask her things like, “I thought we worshiped one God. Looks like we worship three.” Or, “God must not be all powerful if it takes three of them to run things.” No matter what my question was, the answer was always, “It’s a mystery”. As I got older, I started realizing it’s much more than a mystery, but rather an important part of how we understand God and one another. We will talk about this and more this Sabbath. For more information on the Trinity, go here. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trinity

ANNOUNCEMENTS 

Yoga with Peter Steen

We meet every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month at 9:30am.  Next Yoga Practice is Oct.29. RSVP to Peter Steen at petersamuelsteen@gmail.com. Suggested donation is $10.  Please bring a mat and water bottle.

Citykids

Citykids Party is Nov.12!  Citykids Party meets every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School meets every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month at 12pm in room 3.  

Looking for a studio or one bedroom:

Through our friend Daneen Akers, we’ve learned that Keisha Mackenzie is moving to NYC to begin a new job on November 1.  (Some of you may remember Keisha from her participation in the dialogue film “Enough Room at the Table,” which we screened this past summer.)  Keisha’s looking to rent a studio or one bedroom in Queens (Astoria) or Brooklyn (within a 1/2 hour commute to her work at W.28th between 6th and 7th).

Let’s help her find a place!  If you’ve got any leads or recommendations, please email her at: keisha@mackenzian.com.

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast!

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email

 

Donations:

All monetary donations and checks can be written to:

Citylights Community and mailed to:

P.O. BOX 239 New York, NY 10026

Or make a secure donation online

https://www.faithstreet.com/church/citylights-community-new-york-ny/giving

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast!

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah.  You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email

Citylights Community Newsletter 10.13.16

HI LIGHTS,

Lately, I have been resenting being a woman.  It really sucks sometimes being a girl, especially if you dream of a path through life that is normally dominated by our testosterone filled counterparts.  One night, I was lying in bed thinking how unfair it was that I had to change gears once I became a mother.  There were times before when my husband and I would share our dreams, hopes, and aspirations over a bowl of ice cream.   Nothing would stop us because we were invincible. 104268-it-is-hard-being-a-womanThat was before kids, of course. Everything changed when I became a mother of two, both in beautiful ways, as well as ways of fucked-up.  It was my duty to stay home, and care for our babies.  Not that that hasn’t been a blessed experience, but I still had to put my career aspirations on hold.  I also had great difficulties coping when my first child was born. I continued to work, but it felt like working two jobs simultaneously.   Breastfeeding was difficult, having to pump at work.  I actually hated it, and would literally count the days until I reached the 6 months mark, which is the “acceptable” time to quit. My chest was constantly sore, and I always felt awkward.  I had to find time during my hectic schedule, searching for a private secure place to pump every three to four hours.   The milk was then stored in my mini travel cooler that I carried home on a subway everyday after work.  If I missed a pumping session, that had a price as well.  My breasts would become painfully engorged and hard as a rock.  It felt that the skin holding everything together would rip apart.

On top of that, I think I had postpartum depression.  It was the worst.  So here I am now, trying to figure out how to move forward in life.  I want to jump back into pursuing my career, but my body and spirit have changed.  And while I am wrestling with what to do, my husband gets to continue building his career at a mighty speed.

jesus-pin-257x200But that is not what bothered me the most.  What gets to me is that as a woman, I am already judged.  Pile that on top of being judged by my minority-type of complexion, things get really frustrating.  One night, as I was lying in bed, Sam asked me what I was thinking.  I exploded at him. I yelled at him for not knowing that he still has the white and male privilege (he’s half Scottish and Filipino).  A lot of time, people assume he’s white, so he hasn’t had to deal with that type of discrimination.  He has no idea about the struggles of pumping milk in a public setting, and how to store and transport it.  He didn’t have to answer questions in job interviews if he was married, nor did he get turned down job positions due to the predominance of white males in the field.  I was turned down many positions by a certain religious organization, much to do with my gender.  He doesn’t get questioned if he lives in our building or gets asked about cleaning services.  Somehow, I get asked how much I charge for cleaning services in my own building.  He doesn’t get asked when he’s with our kids if they are his. On the other hand, people assume that I’m the nanny of my children and are surprised that I am the mother.

He doesn’t get hit-on by older women inquiring about escort services, while I deal with all these elderly white men looking for a “good time”.  They seem to like asians for some reason.  One time, while I was studying at a coffee shop on the Upper East Side, I was approached by such a man who was with his friend.  Both were wearing power suit attire. When I spoke, they were so surprised how well I spoke English, and realized that I was not an “exotic asian” from overseas.  The guy was a bit disappointed, but still had the nerve to ask me out.  And this is not the first.

women-powerSo I tell Sam that he needs to be a voice for me.  I’m tired.  I’m really tired of all this shit.  I’m tired of being a woman, mother, and a minority. I’m tired of standing and I need YOU to stand for me. Wake up and hear my story.  He holds my body while I’m shaking with anger inside me.  That night both of us couldn’t sleep.  We just held each other, and wondered how to make our voices heard.  He hears my story and that’s enough for now.  I just want more people to hear our stories.  I truly believe stories can change one person at a time.  So please share your story, because without our stories humanity is not nothing.

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11:00am and service begins at 11:30am)

blogger-image-181558545“I don’t mean to bother you God, but…..”

This week we look to Luke 18:1-8 as a starting point for a discussion that we started last week. What are the things we need to “bother” God about. How do we as a community go about that business?

 

 

 

 

 

 

ANNOUNCEMENTS 

Yoga with Peter Steenyoga

We meet every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month at 9:30am.  Next Yoga Practice is Oct.15.  Suggested donation is $10.  Please bring a mat and water bottle. RSVP to Peter at petersamuelsteen@gmail.com

 

Citykids

Citykids Party will meet every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School will meet every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month from 12-1pm in Room 3.

Donations:

All monetary donations and checks can be written to:

Citylights Community and mailed to:

P.O. BOX 239 New York, NY 10026

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast!

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah.  You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email to mccashsarah@gmail.com

Newsletter 9.9.16

Dear Lights,

staycationLately, I’ve been on a quest to seek out wonder in my simple daily life.  Apparently, most of my neighbors are having Martha Stewart style breakfasts on their private beaches or country homes, or going on exotic trips.   In fact, one of my neighbors just sent their two older children to Paris for sleep-away camp for a couple of weeks. So here I am challenged to find wonder with my limited budget, which means a staycation at home. Turns out, it was one of the best memorable summers with my family.

I get the most amazing long cuddles with my kiddos every morning.  Sometimes, the girls will let me sleep in and will bring me a cup of coffee to my bed.  Of course, not every morning is so glorious.  If Sam and I sleep in too long, hell will sort of break loose.  Upon waking, we have found our apartment covered in glitter, tape, and string. Sometimes we find trails of books coursing through our abode.  Literally, every book that they can reach has been used to cover the floor.  It is actually quite amazing.

So, I am slowly finding wonder.  My kids are teaching me wonder.  “Mommy, look down.  Do you see my picture of Jesus?”  Turns out Khloe thinks Jesus wears a rainbow skirt, adorns his head in shaggy dreads, and wields a sword.  Think rastafari warrior Jesus.  There even appears to be what looks like a smoking joint in his hand, but I don’t want to be over interpret things.  “Mommy, look up! Do you see the clouds that look like a turtle dancing?”  Their imaginations are incredible.  “Mommy, come and jump in the bed in your undies!”  How could I resist?

bubble-man-central-park-oct-2012In our wonder, we trek through this concrete jungle and meet amazing strangers along the way.  We bond with bus drivers and artists, and chase enormous bubbles through Central Park.  We make sand angels on the beach.  We hold our breath as we ride the air tram to and from Roosevelt Island. We role play as knights and princesses eating dinner while sitting in our favorite diner. We stay up late dancing and eating cookies.  Time doesn’t own us.  We take our time finding glee and wonder.

As I continue to look for wonder, Sam and I have been blessed to go on many spontaneous dates this past couple of weeks.  One of them was overnight.  It’s been more than five years since we did anything spontaneous overnight without the kids.  So we indulged in yummy food and delicious drinks.   Got a little buzzed, maybe a little crazy. The only regret, not doing this sooner.  Thank you community for allowing us to experience this wonder again.

I realize wonder is also about restoring friendship. Wonder is learning to let go and breathe.  Wonder is trying something new and learning to laugh at yourself.  Wonder is choosing silly over formality.  Wonder is reaching out to another fellow human and sharing stories.  Wonder is also seeking out God again and again.

May we continue to find wonder and glee. Happy Sabbath!

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11am and service begins at 11:30am)

From the beaches, and the lakes, from foreign countries, and snow capped mountains. From the airplanes, and sea planes, from trains, and ships, and automobiles, we return. We return to the rhythms of fall. The rhythms of life. The rhythms of community.

This Sabbath we will ask the question that will be asked in grade schools across the country; “What did you learn on your summer vacation/sabbatical?” We will sing, share, embrace and pray.

ANNOUNCEMENTS 

Yoga by Peter Steens

Every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month.  Next Yoga Practice is Sept. 17.  Suggested donations is $10.  Please bring a mat and water bottle.

Citykids-

Citykids Party will be every 2nd Saturday of the month. Please note, next Citykids Party will be Sept.24.

Citykids Sabbath School will meet every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month. Next Sabbath School will meet Sept. 17.

Donations:

All monetary donations and checks can be written to:

Citylights Community and mailed to:

P.O. BOX 239 New York, NY 10026

INFORMATION AND DIRECTIONS

Service begins at 11:00am with light breakfast!

We have updated our Facebook Group! (http://www.facebook.com/groups/CitylightsCommunity/). Feel free to post information, pictures, events, and use it to work out organizational logistics. It is a closed group, so information is not public. Also, feel free to invite others who have attended Citylights in the past (an administrator of this group will have to approve their membership). Weekly updates will still arrive to your email inbox directly from Sarah You can subscribe or unsubscribe to the weekly updates by sending an email to mccashsarah@gmail.com

Newsletter 8-5-2016

Hi Lights,

2013-RAL-Dove-300x248We will be taking a Sabbatical from our Sabbath services for the entire month of August.  Instead of spending our Sabbaths in the usual Quaker room, we will be spending it finding wonder in our New York City playground and beyond.  Our first wonder trip this upcoming Saturday is the magical Governor’s Island.  For those who have not been there, I urged you to come and make a day trip.  If you leave before 11:30am the ferry fare is free, otherwise it’s $2 bucks per person. The ferry leaves every half hour starting 10:00am from the Battery Maritime Building and starting at 11:00am from Pier 6 Brooklyn Bridge Park.  Click here for ferry schedule and maps.

12governors.spanImagine no cars on the island.  Just people walking, biking, or sleeping.  Bike rental and Citibike are available. You can even bring your own,  There are art installations, music and dance events, and the new Slide Hill that just opened this past month.  And when you want down time take a snooze in the Hammocks Grove, lounging around and eating yummy ice cream. So bring a water bottle and sack lunch, or you can buy all sorts of good eats from the food trucks.  Also, bring comfortable shoes to hike up The Scramble in The Hills.  We will have a picnic lunch on the grassy area.  Hope to see you there!

Governor’s Island (click here for movie of The Hills)

govisland.com

When: August 6

Time: 11:00am

Where: Meet at the 10 South Battery Maritime Ferry in Manhattan

Cost: $2 per person after 11:30am otherwise it’s free.  Ferry leaves every half hour after 10am.

RSVP: Let me know if you’re planning to come at mccashsarah@gmail.com or text me at 909.238.5419

Announcements:

Aug. 6- Governor’s Island-Hosted by Sarah and Sam

Aug. 7 (Sunday)- Get together at 3pm in the Popescu’s home in Westchester, NY.

Aug. 13 – Lake Harriman- Hosted by Carmen

Aug. 20- Staten Island and beach getaway- Hosted by Kurt and Peter

Aug. 27- Visit Hoboken on the water front-Hosted by Carmen

Donations:

DONATIONSAll monetary donations and checks can be written to:

Citylights Community and mailed to:

P.O. BOX 239 New York, NY 10026

Blessings,

Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator