Newsletter 11.18.16

Hi Lights,

girls-are-equal-to-boysKhloe is a 5-year-old kid that unintentionally likes to push peoples boundaries. She somehow manages to challenge people’s beliefs with unbelievable childlike kindness. The other day, Khloe found her beloved necktie that she wore years ago. She was so excited that she found it, and could not wait to wear it to school the next day. “Mom, I’m going to look handsome!” she exclaimed. “Of course you are, Khloe!” I responded. “You’re going to rock the necktie like a rock star!” So the next morning while she and her sister we’re getting ready to school, I peeked into their room to see if they’re getting ready. Summer is putting on the brightest pink and purple princess dress with neon yellow polka dotted tights. She is contemplating which necklaces and bracelets that would go with her fabulous outfit. And Khloe pulls a crisp white superhero tee shirt that says, “Becoming a Superhero”. She takes her small blue and white necktie and clips it onto her shirt with her favorite denim jeans. They both brush their hair until their knots disappears, leaving their hair glossy and soft. They’re both beaming with pride and asked me, “Mom, how do I look?” “You guys look so amazing!” I replied. They both giggled at each other and took off to show Sam their outfit.

When I picked up girls at school, I asked my routine questions, “Who was silly today? Did anyone make you laugh?” I then asked Khloe with enthusiasm, “Khloe, did anyone notice your tie?!” Her response almost broke me. In a casual tone, Khloe says, “mom, my friends say girls can’t wear ties”. I asked her, “Well what did you say!?” I feel my blood boiling inside. “Mom, I told them that some girls wear ties. They would repeat back that girls don’t’ wear ties, but I would say they do.” She said this multiple times to her friends. She then breaks into a giggle stating about how she was going to wear her time tomorrow, and for the rest of the week. She takes off and joins her two sisters playing with legos.

I, on the other hand, am a hot mess. I just wanted to cry. I wondered to myself, “Is this just the beginning of heartbreaks for being different?” So the whole day, I was moping. Sam came home, and I told him what happened. He said he overheard the kids talking to Khloe about the tie incident, but it was all in an innocent manner. I asked him if any of the parents chimed in? He said no. My heart dropped again.

As I tucked my kids into bed that night I see Khloe’s beloved tie sitting on top of her dresser. I say a blessing on it. This simple tie has served some type symbol of what’s happening in our world today of sharing different beliefs whether it’s religion, gender, race, or politics. I just witnessed Khloe and her classmates able to have a conversation about their opinions without using hateful words or tone. It stung my heart right there because I’ve been guilty many times using hurtful words and tone to Sam, my family, friends, and other people who don’t share the same beliefs as mine. It was at this moment that something stirred inside me to pray. I pray for Khloe and all the people who dare to be different, to have courage and to have a safe community to hear their voices. The next morning, I see Khloe carefully placing her outfit on the bed and places her tie next to it. She looks at me, “Mom, what do you think?” “Khloe, it looks amazing,” and give her a hug. I think I’m going to raid Sam’s closet and find a tie too.


Sarah McCash, Citylights Community Coordinator

This upcoming Sabbath (breakfast starts 11:00am and service begins at 11:30am)

We are a still trying to find our footing since the election. We will spend this Sabbath doing what we always do, learning to love well. Come prepared for a time of mediation, loud singing, quiet reflection, and lively, compassionate discussion.


Yoga with Peter Steen

We meet every 1st and 3rd Sabbath of the month at 10am. Next Yoga Practice is Nov. 19 RSVP to Peter Steen at Suggested donation is $10. Please bring a mat and water bottle.


Citykids Party meets every 2nd Saturday of the month.

Citykids Sabbath School meets every Sabbath except on the 2nd of the month at 12pm in room 3.


We are still collecting pledges. Every cent counts! Please email your pledge amount to our treasurer Sabin: Thank you for investing your time, commitment and resources to our community.

Mail it to: Citylights Community, Attention: Treasurer; P.O. Box 239; New York, NY 10026. (He will keep your pledges confidential and will only share information on the aggregate amount that is raised.)

Give the old-fashioned way (dropping it in the bucket on Saturdays, direct deposit)

Online through Faith Street: (You can download an app for your smart phone. There is a nominal transaction fee, which decreases the higher the amount.)



15 Rutherford Place, New York, NY 10003. We’re located between 15th and 16th street and between 2nd and 3rd Ave. Rutherford Place runs parallel between 2nd and 3rd Ave.


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